Why Good Girls Love Bad Boys.
By Lisa Daily
We’ve all done it at one time or another. We whine
to our friends about the lack of nice available guys,
and then, when given the choice between a nice, sweet
(safe) guy and a bad boy who makes our toes curl, we
invariably go for the toe-curler.
The bad boy.
Doesn’t make any sense, does it?
I recently received a letter from a sweet guy who wrote,
"I've been looking for some insights to what women
are looking for, because from my perspective, they often
go for that which they complain about most!
Got any advice for us men?"
Baby, you hit the nail right on the head.
There’s good news and bad news for all you nice
guys out there. Your day will come. It just may not
be today.
Nearly all women go through some period in their lives
when they’re swept up by a bad boy. The Navy Seal
with the amazing bod and the mental prowess of a fruit
plate. The Harley guy with mean beard stubble and an
attitude to match. The Josh Hartnett look-alike who
makes us feel like the center of the universe, and then
puts the moves on our roommate the minute we leave for
the ladies room.
We can see these guys coming a mile away, and yet we
fall for it every time.
Why?
Part of us actually like to believe we can be the one
girl to turn this wild man into a pussycat. Part of
us just like that down-to-our-toes thrill, the excitement
of something we KNOW is bad for us. (Like chocolate
cheesecake, and Jimmy Choo shoes.) Some of us are just
gluttons for misery.
Most women actually grow out of the bad-boy phase once
we hit our mid-twenties. Our girlfriends start to couple
off, and we start wondering if we used up our nice guy
quota in college when were still torturing men for sport.
That’s where you come in, Mr. Sweet Guy. Because
you’re the guy we really want.
Here’s my advice for all the nice guys:
Remember what we were wearing on our first date. Give
romantic gifts on birthdays and anniversaries (and remember
flower-mandatory holidays such as Valentine’s Day.)
Get what we’re all about. Let us know what you’re
all about. Kill any bugs that sneak into the kitchen.
Give us your coat when it gets chilly outside. And remember
there’s a fine line between being a nice guy and
being a doormat - don’t take any crap from us.
After all, you don’t want to be a good boy in
love with a bad girl.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped! All you
need to know
to make men fall madly in love with you
At UK bookstores everywhere. As seen in/on Cosmopolitan,
Glamour and Hello!
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