What to give up to get Love
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"How to Stop Being Single." The article comes
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What to Give Up to Attract Love
Many times when people want to attract their ideal
partner, they make a list of things to do -- action
steps, if you will -- that will help them meet "the
one." They add new activities into their routine,
join dating services, and write singles ads. They may
start an exercise program or buy new clothes in an effort
to look better. They let their friends know they're
"in the market."
Seldom do people think of giving up something as a
way to attract Mr. or Ms. Right. Well, this is not entirely
true. People may give up such things as smoking or overeating.
But the kind of "giving-up" I'm referring
to is about your beliefs, attitudes, and feelings. Giving
up something in one of these areas is more likely to
lead you to your Mr. or Ms. Right.
Below is a list of things you should consider giving
up if you want to attract your Mr. or Ms. Right.
Give up anger at the opposite sex.
You can tell when people have a chip on their shoulders.
And yet those who are angry and disappointed with the
opposite sex think their feelings are undetectable.
If you can truly give up the anger at the opposite sex,
you have a much better chance of attracting the partner
you want.
Give up on your past relationships.
Most of us can tell when someone is unavailable or ambivalent
about dating because of an unfinished relationship.
If you hope that one of your past partners will come
back, others will be able to tell. Your ideal partner
will surely want a completely available partner. You'll
be hard pressed to attract him or her until you are
completely available.
Give up trying to be perfect in order to attract
a mate.
As long as you think your body, your pocketbook, or
your emotional well-being have to be in perfect shape
in order to be loved, you will remain alone. A state
of perfection can seldom be achieved -- we are inherently
imperfect. You are peachy just as you are for some lucky
person out there.
Give up protecting yourself from hurt.
Lots of singles devise all sorts of tests to make sure
potential partners won't hurt them the way they were
hurt in the past. This never works because people know
when they are being tested and will either fake it or
fail on purpose. Instead, become the type of person
who is seldom mistreated and who can set strong, clear
boundaries.
Give up looking for a relationship.
Looking for a relationship is like looking for a needle
in a haystack. Although singles ads and dating services
bring some success and are good for getting lots of
dating experience, most people still meet their life
partner by chance. Your best bet for finding your Mr.
or Ms. Right is to have a wonderful life now.
Give up on conversations about the lack of available
partners.
Singles frequently complain: "There are no good
single men or women left." "There are no good
single men or women where I live." You will see
what you believe you will see. The issue is not about
what types of singles are in your community or whether
there are any good men or women left. It is not about
men and women out there at all, because you don't need
many men or women to be a particular way. What you want
and need is one compatible partner. And this one partner
is waiting for you to change your belief about what
you will see and make him or her visible to you.
Want to know how to take effective actions on these
six items you need to give up? The action steps and
the other 11 lessons are all detailed in the new class,
"How to Stop Being Single." For more info
and to register, click
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Rinatta Paries
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