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You've met many people in your life. How many
of them have been your ideal mate? Probably very
few. You may have dated someone very attractive,
only to find that they don't seem so wonderful
after you get to know them. If you're going to
find Mr. or Ms. Right, you're probably going to
have to go through a number of people - possibly
a large number!
Here are some ideas on how to increase your contacts
and find your partner:
#1: Decide what you want in a partner.
Most people spend more time planning their vacations
than they spend planning their lives!
#2: Be open and aware of people around
you where ever you go. You never know when you
might meet someone that fits your profile. Also,
be prepared to say "hello".
#3: Don't discount any particular method
of meeting other singles. Chat rooms, personal
ads, singles organizations, classes, etc., are
all good ways. You're going to need a large number
of contacts to find the few that fit your goals.
#4: When you go out, dress! This doesn't
mean that you always need to dress like you're
going clubbing - just dress decently. Don't go
to the store in sweats with your hair in curlers,
and don't go to the bookstore in ratty shorts
and a t-shirt with holes.
#5: Practice saying "hello"
- to everyone. When you're on an elevator, or
passing someone in the street. First, make eye
contact and smile, and then say "hello".
This is great practice for when it will be needed.
#6: Let your friends and family know that
you're looking to meet someone. They may know
someone from work or socially whom they think
would work well as a match. Don't be too picky
- you'd be surprised how well your friends know
you!
#7: Get a hobby! By having other things
you're interested in, you become a more interesting
person. As well, you'll find many organizations
that provide information on those hobbies and
might meet something through them.
#8: Be open - many people unconscientiously
close themselves off to others by averting their
eyes, crossing their arms, and turning themselves
away. Be aware of your body's posture and use
it to tell others that you're approachable.
Finally, always protect yourself. Remember that
the person you meet on-line or in a supermarket
may or may not be the person you first think they
are! Be open to new people, but don't give people
your home address until after you get to know
them.
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for answers. For more information about my book,
"Being a Man in a Woman's World", visit:
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Copyright (c) 2003, Dr. Dennis W. Neder
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