How to write an Online Personal Ad
Online personal ads are a great way to meet a lot of
interesting people quickly. Personal ads are also a
great way to get over a fear many singles struggle with
- that there are not enough available singles of the
opposite sex out there. Once you get into the online
personal ad game and connect with hundreds of other
singles looking for a relationship, that fear disappears.
It's easy enough to write an ad that will get people
to either contact you or respond to your hello. In fact,
this is so easy that you could end up with way too many
responses and way too many people who are not suited
for you.
If what you really want is to get connected with people
who are well suited for you, with whom you are a great
match, then consider the following tips for writing
an online personal ad.
Know what qualities you are looking for in a partner
and ask for them in your ad.
Think about what is really important to you in a partner.
These are the same qualities you find really important
in friends.
Do not list qualities you do not want in a partner.
Ads listing unwelcome qualities sound negative and often
angry and turn people off. You can screen people for
qualities you do not want once you speak to or correspond
with them.
Know what qualities you bring to the relationship
and list them in your ad.
Think about what makes you, you. These are the same
qualities your friends find appealing about you.
Mention any hobby, passion or activity that occupies
a large amount of your time.
If there is something you either love to do or spend
a lot of time doing, mention it in a description of
yourself. It is obviously important to you and part
of what defines who you are.
Be honest about who you are, and what you want and
do not play games.
If you are afraid to write an ad that is too personal
for fear of attracting no one, see if you can try it
anyway. The more honest you are, the more likely you
are to attract whom you actually want.
Refrain from making your ad to sexual, unless you
are looking for sexual liaisons only.
If you are looking for a relationship and not just sex,
leave the sex out and tone down the physical descriptions
in your ad. Otherwise you will be attracting people
who are more interested in sex than in a relationship.
Know what kind of a relationship you want and list
some of the highlights in your ad.
Whether you want a relationship with lots of laughter
and fun, or one where deep conversations last into the
night, etc., put some of this in your ad.
Write the ad in your conversational style.
Refrain from using dazzling words or a lighthearted
tone, unless that is your natural inclination. Write
the ad in a style that most naturally resembles your
spoken word, not in a style in which you think you should
write.
Get your closest friends to read your ad to determine
whether it describes you and the relationship/partner
you are looking for.
Our friends often know us better than we know ourselves
- trust their opinion if they tell you to rewrite your
ad. You are more likely to end up attracting people
you feel good dating.
Go slow when people show interest.
When someone answers your ad and sounds like the kind
of person you are looking for, still take time to get
to know him or her. You don't really know someone until
you spend a significant amount of time together in person.
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