Flirting: Part 2
By Lisa Daily
6) Cross Your Legs (Women)
Crossing and uncrossing your legs is another surefire
flirting technique, especially if you're wearing high
heels. The act of crossing your legs is quite seductive
to men, and it makes them desire to see more. Another
key seduction trick is slipping your heel out of your
shoe and dangling it on your toes. The arch of the foot
sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves,
and sends a man's heart racing.
7) Square Your Shoulders (Men)
Women are biologically attracted to more dominant men,
so stand tall with your shoulders back. Feel free to
take up some space. For men who are victims of the "nice
guy" badge, or who appear to be too submissive
to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for
a spin. According to spatial psychologist Albert Mehrabian,
men should "try wearing bulkier or more conservative
hairstyles or clothing," hold your head up, and
speed up your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
8) Let Your Feet Do The Talking
According to body language expert Wood, you want to
make yourself a "safe" (read approachable)
target. Wood says "to be very approachable women
should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches
apart with toes pointed slightly inward. "
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws
female attention. To attract women, stand with your
feet 6-10 inches apart, and your toes pointing outward.
9) Be a Mimic
People mirror each other's body language when they
are attracted with similar gestures, voice volume, etc.
Try subtly mimicking your flirting target's behavior.
If she leans forward, you lean forward. If he scratches
his head, you scratch your head. If you are mirroring
someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel as though
the two of you are connected and "in tune."
10) Focus, Focus, Focus.
Once you and your flirting target have started talking,
use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile
and maintain eye contact as they are speaking, and focus
all of your attention on what they are saying. There
is rarely anyone more attractive than someone who finds
you utterly fascinating. Other key moves, the nod and
the head tilt - signal you're listening to what the
other person has to say. Smiling and laughing are crucial
here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another
person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another
effective flirting technique is low-level touching such
as brushing the shoulder or elbow.
How to tell if a woman is flirting with you? Look for
the signs above, especially extended eye contact, low-level
touching and laughing.
How to tell if a guy is flirting with you? Again, the
signs above are fantastic indicators, but men tend to
take things a little further by demonstrating their
social status with moves that can include, flashing
cash and talking about their occupations and (you guessed
it) cars.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped! All you
need to know
to make men fall madly in love with you
At UK bookstores everywhere. As seen in/on Cosmopolitan,
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