Flirting: 10 Tips to Make 'em Drool
By Lisa Daily
You don't have to look like Jennifer Anniston or Brad
Pitt to make the guys (or girls) go gaga. All you need
is your fabulous smile and a few surefire flirting tips
like the ones you'll find below to attract the opposite
sex like paparazzi to a movie star.
For women, the key is to look approachable enough for
men to feel comfortable in taking a risk. For men, the
secret is in showcasing your masculinity. (And no, that
doesn't mean adjusting yourself or proving once and
for all that you are the Belching King.)
1) Lock Eyes
Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for
a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your
gaze. Don't stare a hole through the guy's forehead
for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering come-hither
look and look away. Do this at least three times in
a ten to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs
to know it's them you're flirting with, and eye contact
is a universal signal of openness.
2) Smile
Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your
flirting toolbox. Psychology and body language experts
agree that one of the most important things you can
do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable)
is to smile. Not a giant plastic used car salesman smile,
just your normal "I'm having a great time and I'm
happy to be here" face will do the trick. According
to body language expert Patti Wood, "the smile
is the international signal of friendliness." Guys,
if you lock eyes and smiles with a woman three or more
times in an evening, you have received a clear signal
that she's interested. Make your move, head on over
and start up a conversation. If you don't, somebody
else will.
3) Be a Vampire's Best Friend
One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman
can use is the exposure of her neck. This can be done
with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip,
or my personal favorite, the over-the-shoulder glance
- the asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes
your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes.
The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because
it's sexy and it sends a signal to your target that
they are worth a second look.
4) Preen Like A Peacock
We tend to preen or groom ourselvessubconsciously when
we're attracted to someone, by smoothing down our hair
or clothes, checking our lipstick in a compact, or straightening
a tie. Try combining a grooming gesture with a smile
and a gaze. Another trick? Toss your hair to one side.
This classic move is a double whammy that combines preening
and a flash of neck. Need we say more?
5) Lip Service
Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to
red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility.
How to make the most of it? For women, try wearing a
red lipstick (red has been shown to increase a man's
heart rate), which not only gives your lips that youthful
color, but also makes your smile more visible and your
teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give
you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable.
For both men and women, try licking your lips (subtlety
is key here, you don't want to look like you're trying
out for a porno flick.) or biting your lower lip - both
are extremely effective flirting behaviors.
Lisa Daily is the author of Stop Getting Dumped! All you
need to know
to make men fall madly in love with you
At UK bookstores everywhere. As seen in/on Cosmopolitan,
Glamour and Hello!
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